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Join a gym. It has been proven to reduce stress.
Health: “Don’t read into the Chazal something that it doesn’t say!”
THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT YOU PEOPLE ARE DOING!!!!
By the way, g-d is bringing this massive snow storm tonight and tomorrow where where the Capital of NY will be hit with up to 2 feet of snow bringing the whole area to a stand still because of the way you spoke to me! Bain Adam Lechavaro is VERY important to Hashem. The Dor Hamabil was destroyed because of that. Now look what you have done! How many innocent people won’t be able to go to work and lose millions of dollars that could have gone to Tzedaka and helping yungerman learn in kollel.
YOU WERE WARNED AND NOW REAP YOUR PUNISHMENT.
truthsharer: Don’t go there. That topic was already discussed and I agree, Brooklyn is a more affordable and better college. However, you’ll have a hard time convincing these people of that.
Sam2: The difference between us is that I do not consider dressing like a nun an issur d’oraysa of Chukas Hagoyim so dressing like a women is much worse than a nun but it is still muter on purim.
cherrybim: Yes, my rav will say tZe Pasht Nisht, but we are talking about usser.
on the market: Most learning boys won’t care as long as you support:)
The problem with this Shtus argument equating Hurricane Sandy= Gay Marriage is your disgracing the torah.
Minnesota was the first state to allow Gay Marriage in the 70’s, and I didn’t see anything happen to it? Massachusetts who was the most recent state to legalize gay marriage did not get the full brunt of the storm.
Denmark, Norway, Netherlands, etc all allow same sex marriages (since the 1980’s!), and again, don’t see anything happening to them!
So you all can quote chazal, medroshim and all of the sources, but all you are doing is providing a forum where people can start questioning hashem and how fickle chazal is since no other state or country was badly damaged.
Leave the reasons to god and just give Tzedaka to people who were affected!
Oh, by the way, the first Jews were at Matttan Torah, so the argument that Medos Hadin can impact Jews when there is din by goyim is not accurate.
Sam2: Dreassing up like a woman is a D’Orasa of “Lo Silbosh”, however, the Mishna Breura poskens on Purim one is allowed to dress up like a women. The same would apply to dressing up like a Nun, Priest, or Monk.
I was considering moving to Israel, but couldn’t because of working on Sunday! I need that day off to take care of things around the house, shopping or just doing anything that I need. Sunday is awesome in America becasue the kids are in Yeshiva and the adults can do what they need to do.
enlightenedjew: Which bus are you taking?
cherrybim- I agree you made a stupid statement. Even goyim (normal ones) would not let their kids dress like Zonahs.
Most of you are missing the point of why we dress up on Purim. We dress up because the Jews disguised themselves when the Gezayrah came out so save themselves. Some might have dressed as nuns or momks.There is nothing wrong with dressing like a goy because that is what actually happened!
Do you think Purim is Halloween where we just dress up?
Takah: I agree with you. As someone who davvens on the bus ( I admit, I am lazy to get up and go to shul), I am appaled how little of Hilchos Teffilah people know. You do not need to stand when traveling, not even for Shemona Esrai!
You are correct, you probablly have more Kavana in those 30 minutes, then anyone on the bus because 1) getting up and down while the bus is moving, is not so easy, 2) constantly waiting (feels like 5 minutes) until the old man allows the Baal Tefilah to continue because we passed a landmark is distracting. 3) If you are one of the unfortunate people who has a seatmate, it is also cramped having a coat, tallis/teffilin bag and your belongings on top of you.
For anyone to disagree with the OP that we cordon off the women and keep as many seats as possible is lying and rishus. The FACT remains, the mechitza is usually up before women get on the bus and we determine where and how many seats they are allowed to have. Before the mechitza is moved to grant more space, we verify that they are all doubled up while the men have rows to themselves.
So before you argue or disagree with me, please show me ONE minyan bus that the mechitza goes up on the GSP when davvening starts.
No one called them lazy going to work, but lazy in treating avodas hashem with the same zeal as they do with the bus! There are people who go to a 6:00AM minyan in shul and catch a 6:40 non minyan, these people one can respect. This bus also only stops for a few old timers who insist it must stop for narish reasons.
So far everything I have said, you agreed with, so yes it is a fact! You may argue the reasons, but the actions are all FACTS.
nishtdayngesheft: Have you ever been on a minyan bus? If you have,you would affirm what I described is the truth and not make it seem like what the OP described is not the norm.
The wall street bus and the Manhattan buses, women are forced to double up in a row so the men can each have two seats. Please do not try to deny this because that would be lying.
As I mentioned prior, there are always the non minyan bus this young lady can take, where the seating is not prearranged and she can sit on any side of the bus. But the minyan bus is controlled by men.
Don’t get me started with the bus that stops for Shemna Esrai! They don’t have a problem davvening on a bus, but for Shemoni Esrai the need to stop?! What about making people late for work??!
This whole attitude of davening on the bus is that we think our teffilos is mvater everyone else’s comfort! In fact, if there are no separate buses, it is rude for men to disturb people on the bus. It is inconsiderate and selfish to assume that g-d wants our teffilos while disturbing others.
I personally hate it when people on the way home decide to davven on the bus mincha or maariv. I work hard all day and all i want to do on the bus is sleep and relax for that hour. Then some men decide that it is OK to disturb people for minyan because it’s terrible to miss a minyan. Even if it disturbs ONE person, you should not davven on the bus. Show hashem that 1) you are considerate to others so he should be considerate to you and 2) maybe put in an extra effort trying to find a minyan during the day and not be lazy and do it on the bus.
mirror I actually used to daven on those buses until I decided I’d rather wake up and go to shul.
You are correct. What them men do is we all take two seats. One for our coat and tallis bag and the other to sit. We do expect the women to sit two by two while we can stretch and be comfortable.
You can either accept the situation because these people will not change or go to a non minyan bus.
WIY: There is no obligation for one to hear both sides when dispensing advice. It’s advice, not a judgement. A judge is required to hear all parties.
OdAmiChay: You cannot compare suits pants with a Tallis. A wrinkled suit pants one will not wear for shabbos. A tallis, everyone wears even it is wrinkled. The perfect proof, when was the last time you laundered your tallis? Me, over 10 years ago!
My rosh yeshiva said it’s not a problem. There is no hachana since you are not using after shabbos and there is no mesakain.
Folding on a crease it mutter and I do it every shabbos.
What about overpopulation?
The Litvishe Kiryas Yoelite: and men?
Chassidish–I prefer 11:00AM:)
HaKatan: Can you please list off the MANY gedolim that state that it is yehareig ViAl yaavor to join the IDF? Do not include Satmar or Neutra Karta.
Health: I have to disagree because I do not think they are religious enough to take g-d into consideration. To them its a “natural” think so why restrict it. One can make the same argument with polygamy, so why do they outlaw it?
I just read something interesting: In countries where polygamy is legal, marriage for gays is illegal. In countries where same-sex marriage is legal, polygamy is illegal.
I wonder why this is so? I am not looking at this from a Torah perspective. But for people who state the same gender marriage should be allowed because of love and freedom of choice, why would they prohibit polygamy?
Hmm, so a Ski cap is a sign of respect? Or are you just saying BLACK hats are a sign of respect and if you wear blue, or gray it must be taken off?
Should one take off his hat while davvening? It looks like he is about to run out of shul??
Talmud: If I remember correctly, Daf Nun or Nun Aleph, when it talks about different planets. Og, and he writes there are beings that have no nose, just two holes in their face….reminded me of Martians!!!!
Better question, I see a lot pf BOYS wearing Yankee T-Shirts etc. during Bain Hazmonim, is that Tznius?
Which is preferred, if you have to pick one..Yankees or Tzahal?
Why is it the OP’s who have issues with the way girls dress are always men who try to impose their logic in the situation. You never know, soon we will have people suggesting the way Yeshiva Boys wear their hats look goyish.
The Me’am Loez on Parshes Berashis talks about Aliens. He writes that there are aliens with a human head and horse body; like a Centaurs. He also writes there are planets where there are very handsome people, but they cannot grow food. They come to this world to eat people! Speaking of Alien Abduction!
MDG: Now that is one way to resolve the shidduch crises.
Dos Yaochid: Yes, but you should remember the medroashim that all the Avos had to davven for kids. The chumish clearly states that they were an “Akarah” (barren without children). Sarah gave Hager to Avroham as a wife. Yitzchok & Rivka davvened in seperate corners. Rochel tells Yaakov that she like a dead person if he does not give her kids.
Hmm, I just wonder if these emaous were around today will this potential mother in law reject them?
This girl is only a safek, and not even that! The fact that she was born with assistance shows her mother did have children. Don’t forget, males also contribute to this issue. I would suggest thatthe girl request that this boy undergo testing to show he can provide children. Just to be sure.
It’s funny how frum people talk the talk, but don’t walk the walk. We all say bitachon, and Emunaha which seems to apply to every situation besides oneself. All I can say is B’H the avos were not born in our generation since Sarah, Rivka and Rochel all had fertility issues. I wonder who would marry them all their children.
We like to shop at Shoprite since when they have sales they really have great prices. I know this is blasphemy, but if you clip coupons and go to ShopRite on weeks they either double or triple your coupon value then you really save a lot of money. I hung a receipt from Shoprite that showed my wife spent $140 and after the sales and coupons it went down to $60. We also call the manufacturer and tell them we love their products and they also send high value coupons.
Kosher stuff, like chicken and meats are cheaper in Kosher Stores, except when Costco puts their chicken on sale for $1.29Lb.
The key is only shop for sales and stock up. Also always make a list what you need and NEVER deviate from it.
I don’t know why everyone thinks 7 months is too early to sleep through the night. My children, who were all nursed, slept through the night at 6 months and slept from 12:00AM-5:00am by 3 months. It’s a matter of training them.
Health & Hakatan- I had a nice winded response which it seems the mods will not post because they are afraid to show I am right:)Oh well, have a good shabbos.
I just find it funny how everyone knocks MO and now decides to call Jack Lew an Orthodox jew where he will follow the haclacha of the Yeshiva world. Jack Lew davvens at Beth Sholom Congregation and Talmud Torah (BSCTT) which is a Modern Orthodox synagogue on Seven Locks Road in Potomac, Maryland. It is led by Rabbi Joel Tessler and assistant Rabbi Nissan Antine.
For the past few days people have been arguing that MO violates halacha time and time again, but now you decide differently?
Jack Lew will do whatever his Rabbonim tell him, not what YOUR rabbnim say. If he works on Shabbos, I am sure his Rabbi provided him the guidelines when it is necessary to work.
avhaben: And the rabbonim used Moreah Nevuchim as foot stools and put the Rambom is chayrum. Interesting how now we respect him.
Thehock: The Ferber method lets the baby cry; I do not. I have a hybrid of the Ferber Method and “The Baby Whisperer” (a great book for new parents). For example, I do not rock or shake when putting the baby to sleep since this will cause a “crutch” that the baby will expect every time. When you stop, it’ll start crying. I let the baby cry for short periods and then console them but increase the response time going on.
Interesting tidbit….most NON western countries, babies have skin to skin contact with the mother for 90% of the time until 1.5 years old. The average baby cries in non western countries is 10 seconds per hour! Wow!
not say anything about homosexuality (if I remember the meforshim correctly).
So far it seems I am proving you case after case where YU has made a kiddish hashem, while Touro made no public statement condemning homosexuality.
Health: The same situation that makes Toruo an oiness applies to YU. The problem you have is that you do not differentiate the Yeshiva from College. These are TWO distinct departments, which the Yeshiva cannot control. The rabbonim are against the gay clubs, but are powerless. Touro is a Maizid since they knew before acquiring other schools what this will entail especially since YU went thought it. You cannot takeover a goyish college and then try to ban their clubs, and they knew that since YU had the same issue. The bottom line is, Touro is a maizid since they cannot use the excuse, we did not know. They should have lost money and not acquire any college that cannot be run under Jewish Law.
I am also surprised you would eat the any food that has an OU since it is run by alumina of YU. Rabbi Menachem Genack- CEO OU Kosher and Rabbinic Administrator, and other rabbonim received their smicha from YU.
Patri: I think you misunderstood the Gemorah in Sanhadrin. There was clothing that was specifically for Jews; it was a yellow badge, long undergarments, or wear clothing that were black or dark blue color; and all this was not in the time of Shmad that the goyim instituted to keep Jews separate ( a broacha in disguise). Under Muslim rule, women had to wear a black and a red shoe, and each woman had to have a small brass bell on her neck or shoe. These all became distinctive Jewish clothing over time, like the shtraimel today. In the time of Shmad, even these clothing one cannot change once they become a levush of a Jew. The Rambam (Hilchos Avodah Zarah 11:1): specifically states that the clothing referred to in the gemorah are clothing specifically for goyim; like you had in the olden days. Today, where there is no real distinction between a Jews clothing and a Goy (I am not talking about rednecks or bikers guys), I do not think you can argue, based on that gemorah, that there is no issur of dressing fashionably. Maybe be a waste of money and an issur of Baal Tashchus of well earned money:)
147: There is this crazy invention called Soy Milk, or black coffee (that means coffee without milk..crazy…I know) so no waiting is required. Check it out:)
loca: Your right, there is no need to go out, but when you have older kids it’s nice to have “alone” time without people interfering with questions, concerns etc. And yes, we tried “Please do not disturb”, but that did not seem to work 🙂
The purpose of the date is not just about quality time together, but an excuse to NOT sit in sweatpants, but put some effort into the other person; which I feel some of us forgot how to do over the years. But hey, to each their own. What works for me, might not work for you. It’s up to you to find your sweet spot or you can always listen to the OP and find a counseler to help out your marriage. I prefer my way, some prefer counseling.